Updated: Sep 16, 2020
It's something we've all heard at one time or another. When we asked to stay up past our bedtime, or asked for just one more cookie. Of course, I'm talking about the word no.
Dealing with rejection and the word no is difficult for most. It can make us feel hopeless, like a failure. Whether it's a great new business idea and you're trying to get funding, or you're a budding entrepreneur trying to get people to buy your product. No matter who you are or what you're doing, rejection stings. So, how do we deal with it?
I've known more than my fair share of rejection. After graduating with my undergraduate degrees, I decided to go straight into my MBA - I thought it would give me a competitive edge when looking for a job in the future. A year into the program, and about 30 job rejections later, I found out it'd be harder than I thought. I had done everything right, too! Or, at least I thought I had. I had internships, volunteered, got involved with extracurriculars, worked multiple part-time positions to make sure I was well-rounded. None of it saved me from rejection - and A LOT of it. It wasn't until the week of my graduation that I was offered a job. Literally, five days before my graduation. But that's the funny thing about rejection - you really only need one person to take a chance on you and everything else follows.
Here are my three biggest tips for dealing with rejection:
1. Build a good support system
Surround yourself with others that lift you up and want to see you succeed. I'm lucky enough to have wonderful people in my life that I can depend on to get me through periods of self-doubt and hard times. Find your crew and stay away from those toxic people that suck your energy, bring you down, and are constantly comparing themselves to you.
2. Don't take it personally
This is the hardest thing for me when dealing with rejection. I have marshmallow feelings, meaning, I read into everything and I take EVERYTHING personally. At some point you have to realize that it's not you, it's them, and it probably wouldn't have been a good fit anyways.
"Don't let the muggles get you down" -Ron Weasley
3. Keep moving forward
I believe it was Walt Disney that said, "Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things, because we're curious … and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths." This is applicable to many things in life, but it should especially apply in the case of rejection. Rejection shouldn't scare you from trying again, or even trying new things. Explore and be curious. Never let someone else's no, scare you from your yes.
Remember, it only takes one yes and everything else follows.